Romans 15:1-2;

We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.

Met any weak people?
Have you got frustrated?
Have you lost patience?
Have you lost your relationship?

Perhaps it could have been a good relationship if you had maintained but you didn’t maintain the relationship because they had too many weaknesses to deal with.

So, in my blog today. I’m going to write about How to bear with weak people.

 

It’s easy to hang out with a strong person because they seem to be more mentally stable and less prone to starting an argument. But it is not easy to stick around the weak because they complain, find faults in almost everything, gossip, fight, argue, think high of themselves and do many more things…

Paul writes an important advice to the Church to asking them to bear with failings of the weak.

I am going to write about two common characteristics of weak person and how you can deal with them

Two common characteristics

  1. Pride
  2. Gossiping

Pride
You can find a weak person by just noticing how they like to show themselves.

Almost everyone does show off but some do it to a greater extent. And those who try to show off many times do so to find praise and approval from other people. Such people survive on other words of praise and appreciation.

They also tend to put down, talk low or negative about others. Sometimes they can even put down their own friends for the sake of personal gain.

The worse thing is that they think they are the strongest and the coolest but in reality, they are the ones that need help.

Gossip
Gossiping is a sign of weakness. If you want to know how weak a person. Measure their level of gossip. Notice how much time they spend gossiping. (I wish there was a gossip measuring apparatus. 😀 )

Some are occasional gossipers, some are habitual ones, but some have to gossip to live.!

As wonderful as they may seem on the outside, they are actually the ones who suffer from the problem of double standards, telling lies and trying to live up other people’s standards. In other words, they are trying to live based on people’s opinions on how to live.

So, these people need help. Don’t pray that a miracle will happen in their life that they will stop being proud or stop gossiping. No.! That won’t happen. But you go and show them how to live a normal life; a life without pride and gossip.

 

How do we bear with such people

  1. Understand their weakness
  2. Help them understand the reality
  3. Please them

 

  1. Understand their weakness

People who are weak fail to come out of their weakness because they themselves haven’t identified their weakness. But you have to help them identify their weakness. They may not agree in one day but eventually they will. Help them understand in a way where you carefully explain and tell them where they are wrong. Never point them out in Public but always talk to them in private and help them.

 

  1. Help them understand the reality

Lecrae, a Christian artist said, “If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die of their rejection.”

People who are proud and gossip live in a false reality that this is all there is to life. Show off. Have some swag and live up to people’s standards. But those human standards change. They are never the same. Today you will be accepted and tomorrow you will be thrown out the window.

They have to be taught in being self-sufficient in who God created them to be.

Sadly, our world today is influenced by celebrities and celebrities kids. Anything they do becomes a big thing or anything they speak becomes the norm of the society.

There are millions of girls and boys who suffer from anorexia. They dream of becoming a size zero model that the world will vouch for.

We have to help them understand that we are made in the image of our creator and we have to live only up to his standards of life. That is to have the fruits of the spirit prevalent and working in our life.

 

  1. Please them

You may wonder what kind of an advice is this. Please them ? Seriously ?
Yes, Please them. That is what the Bible teaches us to do.

Rom 15:2 says, Each of us should please their neighbor for their good, to build them up.

Please them. In other words be nice to them. Be nice to them in such a way that they will be delighted to see you. If you were to go on correcting them every time they speak or do something, they won’t like it. But rather please them by being nice to them. Know when to speak, understand when and how to treat them. Keep them closer to you.

The goal of pleasing them is to build them up. It is for their good. Sometimes you may feel it’s better not to maintain a relationship with such people. But stick to them. Do it sacrificially so that their attitude may be changed into the way God wants it to be. That is why it says in the next verse.

Rom 5:4 For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.”

The bible teaches us clearly to bear with the failings of the weak. Honestly, it’s hard to stick around such people but at the end, it’s worth the effort when they finally realize their weakness and work towards becoming stronger. When you do that you will reflect Jesus to the weak ones around you.

Let us show Jesus through our lives.

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